Jan 6, 2022

Why Your Poor Husband Is Important

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I have a neighbour, Rhoda, who got married to a young man. Her husband is self-employed and works hard to find a breakthrough.  Though he has not found his breakthrough, he brings something to the house. Rhoda, however, fails to understand the worth of her husband, and she’s always ashamed to talk about him. She is of the notion that a worthy husband is one that is “made.”

I think that Rhoda is suffering from profound ignorance, despite her education. It is important that she understands that a surprisingly high number of women are married to men of the economic strength of her spouse or even worse and, yet, talk proudly about him.

There is this widespread position of a lot of adult girls that they will wait for a wealthy man. The danger here is that if she waits too long, she will end up getting old without a husband. And, from that point, desperation could set in. The result is that she could end up without a husband or one worse than the one she feared. Grown women without spouses need to understand that:

  • Most women married their husbands when the husbands had nothing. They, then, grew together.
  • Such wealthy men are not many. If you continue waiting for one of them, you could end up without one or with the worst.
  • A good number of women who married wealthy men also came from wealthy family backgrounds.
  • If you find a wealthy man, there’s a good chance he already has a woman in his life.
  • There are a lot of women who are married to wealthy men but are unhappy.  Some of these women wish the man gets poor, if his poverty will ensure they are happy.
  • Your husband is what you have, what belongs to you. You should not be ashamed of talking about him. People will not despise you because you are proud of your husband.   
  • I   If you stand with your husband in front of some women from wealthy marriages, some of them will admire your husband.
So, what do you need to look at in a man? The man you intend to marry should be a man you love, a man who also loves you. This is fundamental.

Poverty isn’t a virtue, but it is something you can get rid of, with hard work. So, check to see if the man has a prospect. A man with a prospect is a man who’s educated or has a skill he’s acquired and works hard. He shouldn’t be a man who lives the culture of spending every evening in a liquor bar. He shouldn’t be a womanizer. Drinking and womanizing eats up income and ensure you get stranded in poverty.

Sometimes, you get married to a man you are proud of because of his good qualities, but the man changes after sometime.  It is a challenge that has thrown itself along your path, and you have to fight it. Even in wealthy homes, there are challenges. It explains why some women in wealthy marriages are not happy. Life is never a walk in the park every time

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